like people are just going to keep saying “theyre only queer because they want to be/because it gets them off/because they think it’s fun/because they saw a queer person and thought it sounded like a good idea/etc”. theyre gonna keep saying it.
and we are going to have to stop desperately scrambling to say noooo, they have to be like that, they have no choice, they wouldn’t be like this if they didnt have to. we HAVE to stop falling all over ourselves assuring straight people and transphobes that we hate being us as much as they hate us being us, that we are suffering and that’s why we deserve this decadence and deviancy. we HAVE to start saying “yeah ok and?”
being queer is a delight. deviant sex makes people really happy. being genderfucky is joyful. queerness CAN actually be an option you can choose, and that doesn’t make it worth less than if you only picked it with a gun to your head, because it is a good option and there are good reasons to pick it.
we have to stop shifting the goalpost to “we can’t help being like this”. the point is that being like this is good. being queer is good, whether you chose it on purpose or whether you only moonlight or whether you do it because it gets you off or because it’s fun and freeing or because you have been this way since you were born. queerness does not need to be earned or justified by an inability to be “”“normal”“”. if you are being queer that is good because being queer is good.
biggest protection from internet brain poisoning is remembering the idea “are people making up a guy and then getting really mad at that made up guy?”. sometimes you gotta just take a step back and go is this this an actual issue with actual discourse or is it just something like four people on tiktok are saying? By getting mad at this do I sound like new stations talking about a “new teen drug craze” that 100% is not a thing?
